Sunday, April 17, 2016

Be Still, and Know that I Am God

Whenever there is a crisis or a situation that I can't control I turn to this scripture.

The past few weeks have made me turn to this scripture more than once.

An old friend was diagnosed with cancer.

Another family that I know lost a son.

A young woman that I know was in a serious car accident and is still in a coma.

A young family member is undergoing a crisis.

And more...

We want to ask, "Why?"

My friend went from being a healthy person one day to becoming a cancer patient the next day.

While they were enjoying life after their retirement, my other friends are

mourning the loss of their son.

The young woman is a mother of a young child and now lies in intensive care.

These are things that we don't understand. We look for answers, but sometimes they aren't there.

The only thing that we can do is "Be still, and know that He is God."


One thing that I inherited from my German mother is the love of dishes. When she passed away she had no less than eight tea services! Thankfully, with four daughters we were able to split them up without having to sell any. The two services I inherited will go to my daughters.

I've always loved blue and white china and when my mother passed away my sisters gave me her blue and white pieces, like the ones in the picture below.

I spent half of today making room for my new dishes. Yes, I couldn't resist. A few weeks ago my oldest daughter and I were shopping at Belk, in the housewares department. The blue and white "Devon Cottage" by Johnson Brothers were on sale and being discontinued. My daughter found out that each piece was marked down to $5.99. For fine china that is a deal! I also had a coupon with an extra discount. "Come on, Mom," my daughter encouraged me, "Go ahead and get them, because you have been wanting these for years." So, I did. Now I have to invite some friends over for dinner or a tea party.

Monday, April 4, 2016

Springtime = Allergies

Is it April already? I am glad to say say good bye to March. 
My allergies and sinus congestion
have been particularly annoying this year. 
Still, I went to the park on Saturday to enjoy the weather.
It was still a bit chilly, but the sun was shining 
and the cherry blossoms are starting to bloom.

Thursday, March 10, 2016


One thing I like about having the DVR on my television is that I don't have to sit through the commercials. I can tape a show and later, while watching it, fast-forward and end up watching an hour-long show in 45 minutes. I also like the pause button. If the phone rings or I have to throw a load of clothes in the dryer, or if I am interrupted for any reason, the pause button comes in handy. 

That's in a make believe world. We can interrupt the annoyances. And get back to the "real" show.

But real life is not like that. A dear friend has been diagnosed with cancer after an ordinary trip to the emergency room last week. Another friend from church lost their son last week. A cousin is facing unsettling medical tests. Where is the pause button?

Sometimes I would like to fast forward through all the bad news, or better yet, press the pause button for just a moment and take that phone call.

Tuesday, January 19, 2016

Morning Rituals

          I listen to your footsteps in the early morning
turning on the kitchen faucet
and starting the coffee
I listen as you unlock the door
and walk to the end of the driveway
to pick up the morning newspaper

I listen to the clock radio
as another Top 40 record plays
and as the DJ tells another silly joke
I pull the blanket over me
through the weather report
and the latest news headlines

You open the bedroom door, softly
to see if I am awake
I rub the sleep from my eyes
and reach for my robe
which had fallen to the floor
and wrap it close around me

You pour my morning coffee
as I hunt for my reading glasses
You chatter; I am quiet
the early bird and the night owl
 We are familiar with each other's habits
especially in the early morning hours

(c) 2005 Anita M. Ashworth

(I wrote this several years ago)

Sunday, January 17, 2016


I celebrated another birthday this month. I am now 39 with 20 years experience, as I like to tell people. Although next year, when I change decades, I will have to confess to my true age.

Still, as many people say, every day above ground is a good day.

I have much to be thankful for. My two daughters. My six grandchildren. My son-in-laws who are good and decent men.

 I am fortunate to have a good job. I think of the many people I meet everyday who share their problems and stories with me, seeking to improve their financial situation. (I work in a credit union). Like the lady who only had an 8th grade education and went to Nursing school when her children were in elementary school. Everyone tried to talk her out of, but she wasn't deterred. Not only did she pass her GED test, she retired as a charge nurse after 26 years and was able to send all five of her children to college.

I am now reading the new book by Harper Lee, "Go Set a Watchman" and also the book on "The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing" (what a long title to simplifying your life!)

Also on my list is "The Martyr of the Catacombs" a book that I read as a teen and loaned to someone. It is one of those books that stays with you and creeps into your conscience. With Google search and Amazon I was finally able to find it again!

I recently finished "The Searchers"The Making of an American Legend, about John Ford, John Wayne, and the making of the classic western, "The Searchers."

Alas, I don't read much fiction, preferring biographies or books about history, religion, etc.

Have a blessed day!

                                 Five of my six grandchildren. This was taken on my birthday.

Footnotes in History

I can't believe that we are already two weeks in the New Year!

I recently discovered new facts on my husband's side of the family. I was able to back to the 1700's and found out that one of his ancestors was baptized in the Old St. Paul's Church in Baltimore. The gravestone belongs to Jane Stansbury, the daughter of Thomas Stansbury. She married John Lemmon, who is a direct ancestor of my late husband. Genealogy is much like being a history detective and connecting the dots.

Another interesting story that I discovered in my brother-in-law's family tree is that one of his ancestors immigrated from North Carolina to Tennessee in the 1780's to one of the Cumberland settlements near Nashville. John Donelson brought a large party down the Cumberland and built Fort Nashborough (now Nashville). As a child we took a field trip to this fort and what was intriguing to me was that John Donelson's daughter, Rachel, became the wife of Andrew Jackson. "Andy" Jackson was a well-known frontiersman at the time and became famous for the infamous "Trail of Tears" legislation that sent the five Eastern civilized tribes to Indian territory (now Oklahoma).  Sadly, Rachel died and never lived in the White House. Their marriage was actually quite a scandal back then because Rachel was previously married and her divorce was questioned by Jackson's enemies.